The Weekend In Review
Cara’s parents arrived in town on Friday evening. Her parents are everything we are not. Staunch Republicans, right wing Christians, and Conservative to boot.
Cara and my typical approach to this is roll with the view of her parents to make the weekend good. Judy, Cara’s mom is constantly looking for a reason why Cara is a lesbian. Judy’s newest thing is because she has a thyroid problem. Judy is convinced that the thyroid med she took did something while she was pregnant with Cara. That is why Cara is a lesbian. Judy then lamented that I was adopted because we didn’t know if my bio mom had a thyroid problem. Because having a thyroid issue can now explain why someone is a lesbian.
Every meal Cara’s parents had to pray. While this typically doesn’t bother me it did because we were out in restaurants. I have a problem with praying in public. My personal opinion is I think it’s inappropriate while someone is trying to fill your drinks to say: We need a minute here we’re praying. Plus doesn’t the bible say some place not to pray in public?
I could go on about Cara’s parents, but that would be an injustice to them. They are nice people who are very proud of their daughter. Her parents have worked hard in the time that Cara and I have been together to be accepting of us. They disagree with our ‘choice’ to be together, but agree that it is no worse than any other ‘sin’.
Her parents have come a long way. From the lectures of this isn’t what God wanted for you, to now Are you going to church?
I think Cara’s parents have graduated some this year too. I think we have found a happy medium where we agree to disagree.
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> Plus doesn’t the bible say some place not to pray in public?
Actually we’re taught that it’s a bad thing to pray *just* in order to be seen as “people who pray”. It’s a warning against hypocrisy and pride, and one of the strongest condemnations that Jesus laid out - he referred to religious leaders who lived that way as “whitewashed tombs”. Sounds like her parents would also be likely to give thanks when they’re eating privately.
I agree (as someone who also gives thanks, even when dining out) that there’s some practical difficulties. It needn’t take long, so there’s usually a quick moment when it doesn’t intrude on the meal or the conversation.
Sounds like her parents are doing an awesome job of reaching out and being supportive, with grace and love. That’s fantastic. Given how much they’re stretching out of their comfort zone… is it really so difficult to show the same gracefulness about this little eccentricity of theirs?